Irish People Share Their Coming Out Stories

  • Published: 27 June 2019
  • For Pride Month, we asked our LGBT TRYers to share their coming out stories. Their stories detail what it's like growing up LGBT in Ireland as well as commenting on the differences between then and now.
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  • The TRY Channel
    The TRY Channel   5 months back

    Hey, everyone. There was an issue with tonight's video where it wasn't sent to everyone's subscription feeds. As a result, we had to re-upload tonight's video (1080p will be available soon, don't worry). Unfortunately, the earlier of tonight's video had to taken down as the re-upload couldn't go up otherwise. Our deepest apologies to all those who had left comments of support or confiding their own stories and struggles - while those comments are sadly gone, in was in the interest that this video has full visibility allowing the world to see this video in the hopes that it can help even more people.

    Thank you all for your support. Happy Pride.

    - The TRY Team

    • Declan Judge
      Declan Judge  5 months back

      How do I have a stupid view liberalism has caused political unrest all over the world from old world empires such as the Dutch empire that invented slavery and British empire which destroyed peaceful civilization at will too today which if look at Libya and Syria all right not democracy but their people lived in peace till liberal Western countries marcons France and Obama's U.S.A. through a liberal intervention led to civil strife so don't try take the education defense because you are the only one who sound's stupid and ignorant

    • Nihilistic Atheist
      Nihilistic Atheist  5 months back

      Declan Judge As if anybody is going take notice of someone that doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re. Get an education before having a go at others with your ignorant views.

    • Declan Judge
      Declan Judge  5 months back

      If you think Ireland is so unaccepting get out or if you don't stop making out these people are the moral standard because they're same people who support far left views just look at they're parent channel BuzzFeed to them don't if you don't agree your a racist or Nazi

    • Crs
      Crs  5 months back

      for what? @Ball-Peen Hammer

    ANGELA BERUBE  15 hours back

    Thank you all for sharing your stories😍
    I watched this video because I believe that My oldest son us gay I've always known but he at 20 has not came out I have always let my children know from a very young age that i love them and will never think differently of them with who they choose to love I've told them this because i have known that my oldest was ldest from a very young age.

    • Donna Antrich
      Donna Antrich  16 hours back

      So proud and happy for you all.✌

      • Jason Sawyer
        Jason Sawyer  1 days back

        This is one my favorite videos you have all made, even if it sucks that it had to be made. You're all great.

        • ashli sims
          ashli sims  1 days back

          This is the best thing you guys have ever done!!!

          • Thinkout782
            Thinkout782  2 days back

            If I get 100 likes I might come out to one of my friends...

            • michelle risse
              michelle risse  2 days back

              You are all perfectly you, much love from a mom in Utah.

              • Patty Thomas
                Patty Thomas  3 days back

                I can't wait for the day when there will be no coming out...there will just be people living their lives and with no need to explain who they love or explain why they love who they love. You're don't have to identify as a gay teacher, or a gay lawyer or a gay're just a person. You're just a person who loves whoever they love. I think if anyone needs to identify themselves are the haters and the racists.

                • tomadt02
                  tomadt02  3 days back

                  Love is love, that's all that matters. What your heart desires is what makes you YOU. I have friends, and family, that are gay, and it truly doesn't matter to me. All that matters is that the person they are with makes them feel loved in their heart & in their soul. Society is so quick to judge someone by the way they are on the outside, but never consider how, or who, that person truly is on the inside. NEVER change the way you are in order to 'fit in' with what society believes you should be. It's not their place to judge, nor mine. THANK YOU for coming out & sharing your stories. You should be proud of yourselves for the strength you have, the love you deserve, and for being what's most important in your life.....YOU! :-)

                  • Latham Staples
                    Latham Staples  3 days back

                    Thanks for doing this video. Much love to you all! 💜

                    • Bayou Ghosties
                      Bayou Ghosties  3 days back

                      As a mother, I truly believe that hearing that my child is LGBTQ would be 1 zillion times better than hearing that they are on drugs, stuck in an abusive relationship, or identifying their body at a morgue because of suicide. I dream of a day where people will be free to say, this is , and we are in in love, and the only reaction would be congratulations.

                      This is now my favorite try episode. Thank you for your courage, and here is to the day where the LGBTQ community will not have to come out because they are no longer being shoved in to a closet.

                      • Just Me
                        Just Me  3 days back

                        We love all of you,,, I have a 14 year old lil sister who's gay she started out bi but I'm so proud of her and he girlfriend, they went to homecoming together and everything and I was sooo happy..💚❤️🧡💛💙💜🖤

                        • KLM Hooked Moore
                          KLM Hooked Moore  4 days back

                          James Mitchell is so irritating. Too much flamboyancy, drama. Chill bro'. Everyone else is so down to earth. ✌

                          • Cal Bonar
                            Cal Bonar  4 days back

                            Well fuck me that was a heart wrencher

                            • Jim Meadows
                              Jim Meadows  4 days back

                              I was raised in a time where being gay was strongly opposed. I'm not gay I'm a breeder. But, I'm never had a problem with gays of a sexual nature. I figured out very early in life, it doesn't matter to me what anybody is as long as it doesn't involve me. I'm not gay, Hispanic, black, Jewish, or, any other particular group. I'm just me. I let everyone else be who they are. Seems pretty simple to me. Live and let live. Oh, and I love Try channel, y all are the best. Well, that's enough dabbling of an old man. Later.

                              • Alex Flores
                                Alex Flores  5 days back

                                If your family and friends truly love you and accept you they will not care what you are. They will be very supportive of any choice you make. I have in law family members are gay and lesbian but I love them no matter what they are family. And if they can't accept who you are they can take a frigging leap off the tallest building and not be part of your life. So be who you are not what others say who you're supposed to be according to society. Okay I will not climb down off my soapbox for now. :)

                                • Chesa Kramer
                                  Chesa Kramer  5 days back

                                  My beautiful, brave, perfect daughter came out to me when she was 16 and I could not have been more proud and in awe of her! It couldn't have been easy but I am forever grateful that she chose to live an honest life because so many hide and it can be so damaging. Thank you for sharing your stories!!!

                                  • Highlander319
                                    Highlander319  5 days back

                                    Great praise to all of you ! I was raised very religiously , it didn't take 🙃, but I had a girlfriend in high school that opened my eyes all the way and it was amazing . One of my cousins on my other side of the family is gay , that side is much more open, she came out when she was about 20 and was very fearful to tell our very British & Catholic grandmother , but when she did our grandmother said dear we've known since you were 4 ☺️, And one of my daughters is gay , we knew when she was about 8 or 9 and she came out to us at 12💜
                                    Beautiful video, Thank you !! ❤️🎨✨

                                    • Eimhear Ó Dálaigh
                                      Eimhear Ó Dálaigh  6 days back

                                      Every parent needs to watch this before as their children are born so that they realise that they can accidentally allow their children to think they might not be accepted. I always referred to my kids future boy/girlfriends so they all knew all would be welcome.

                                      • Jake Trokey
                                        Jake Trokey  6 days back

                                        Powerful stuff. Thank you all for sharing your stories.

                                        • safe beauty
                                          safe beauty  6 days back

                                          Beautiful video, I admire you all so much for being so amazing and brave. I just can’t come out, it would hurt my family

                                          • JamesMitchellTV
                                            JamesMitchellTV  3 days back

                                            You don't ever have to come out, as long as it's the right thing for you. Just keep in the back of your mind that there are people all over the world who wouldn't be hurt by you coming out, and would love you just as much.

                                        • James Clark
                                          James Clark  7 days back

                                          That was amazing and the tears were flowing! It us so happy and sad in equal measures to see people comfortable with their sexuality but also to see the sometimes painful struggle they went through hile coming out. Some of the longest and honestly most profound relationships have been with my friends who are gay, my word why should d it be so hard for them to be themselves! Sending the love on an amazing film ❤️😊 from a straight man IN Scotland, proud of all my gay friends 💯😊

                                          • Dean Colby
                                            Dean Colby  7 days back

                                            Well done try channel ! xo

                                            • David Miller
                                              David Miller  7 days back

                                              Just now found this. Thank you so much for this amazing video. In tears watching it. Was so touching. Makes me love and appreciate your channel even more. Thanks you for your courage. Seeing this could save lives.

                                              • SGT US Army Girl
                                                SGT US Army Girl  7 days back

                                                Hate is taught not something they are born with. My kids all grown with children. My youngest is bisexual but I never taught them about sexual preferences and never made a big deal about anyone a different skin tone either. As a result my children have befriended many ppl of different faiths, cultures, sexual preferences. The one thing I can say is teach your kids young about sex.

                                                • samantha franco-correa
                                                  samantha franco-correa  1 weeks back

                                                  This is my all time favorite video on TRY. You all are the most beautiful wonderful souls. This video is so f*cking powerful and I love you all.
                                                  As a 28 year old bisexual woman even to this day I struggle to be openly out.
                                                  Thank you for this. Me and my little love is love button than you for this.

                                                  • Gerry Webb
                                                    Gerry Webb  1 weeks back

                                                    As an out proud gay Irish man I feel for each story in this clip. My own coming out was hard, but I’m so happy now that I’ve done it. But after so many years after coming out, I keep having the thought of why did I need to? Straight people don’t need to “come out” to their friends and family, and therefore why should anyone who doesn’t fit into this “normal” box!!! My heart breaks for those in this clip that felt it hard or emotionally hard to come out, but I think you’re so strong, and be proud of who you are cause I think you’re great. And as they said, there are helplines out there for others that maybe facing similar issues in their lives. Just remember, you’re loved, you’re beautiful, and you’re strong. Be proud, and be you, the real you! You’ll feel so much happier for that.

                                                    • Deftones Dsm
                                                      Deftones Dsm  1 weeks back

                                                      Hetero here but much respect to those who are brave enough to fight the stigma. And to those in the closet don't feel you owe anyone any explanation. Life is short live it how it makes you happy not what people tell you makes you happy.

                                                      • Valerie Brown
                                                        Valerie Brown  1 weeks back

                                                        I was in a four year relationship with a woman but am now married to a lovely man for 21 years now and I have children xx

                                                        • Darcy Mandryk
                                                          Darcy Mandryk  1 weeks back

                                                          I am over 60 now, and growing up in a time when being gay was thought of as being abnormal, disgusting, and unacceptable behavior, I have to admit that I did not know any better as to how to react and respond appropriately to the situation. I know now that the biggest problem is with religious beliefs that people have, that make their opinions towards the gay community the way they are. You can't change their beliefs by calling them names, getting violent, or insulting them. I know that my views changed by positive interactions, knowledge, and personal experience with love. It makes me sad that there are people with negative opinions, and if I meet one, I listen to what they have to say, and then discuss it with them. You probably won't change their opinion, the same way you can't change some peoples opinions towards other races, but it might put some doubt in their minds. Social acceptance of the gay community may never get to 100%, but if we can get the people with no tolerance closer to 0%, their views will not matter anymore.

                                                          • Jason85138 Chumuth247
                                                            Jason85138 Chumuth247  1 weeks back


                                                            • Amy Stone
                                                              Amy Stone  1 weeks back

                                                              Me coming out as Bi sexual to my mom.
                                                              Me: "I have a date tonight!"
                                                              Mom: "oh! Whats his name?"
                                                              Me: "Sarah"

                                                              Lol yup thats it.

                                                              • Paul Johnson
                                                                Paul Johnson  1 weeks back

                                                                I don't care what your individual preferences are. Keep on keeping on. You all do a fantastic job.

                                                                • Patrick Carroll
                                                                  Patrick Carroll  1 weeks back

                                                                  I have to admit that I simply don't understand homosexuality. I'm really too old to give a damn, but I simply don't understand.

                                                                  At this point in my life what I really care about is character and morality.

                                                                  I do appreciate this video. Still, I find myself asking the "Chesterton's Fence" question.

                                                                  • drainoman35
                                                                    drainoman35  1 weeks back

                                                                    Straight male here in the USA. You all have family everywhere. From the bottom of my heart, I love you and everyone reading this comment. We are all the hope for a future where all people from all walks of life are loving and feel loved. We are all worthy of being loved and giving love.

                                                                    • 4shys2
                                                                      4shys2  2 weeks back

                                                                      Love you all ! Thanks for sharing! And yes, be safe in your own situation!

                                                                      • Ken Evans
                                                                        Ken Evans  2 weeks back

                                                                        THANK YOU, Try channel people, for this video. No one should ever be afraid to be who they are, but the world we were born into hasn't been that accepting.
                                                                        My wife had gone through years of depression and mental health issues before she realized she was gay. I helped her come out of her shell into who she truly is, and helped her establish her own truth. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, because, while I supported her one hundred percent in her changes, I was also going through my own emotions of losing a wife (whom I still loved/love) and making our relationship into close friends.
                                                                        Thank You All!

                                                                      • Carrie Johnson
                                                                        Carrie Johnson  2 weeks back

                                                                        In the US, asexual people are just being accepted! Good for all of you!

                                                                        • Jasmine s
                                                                          Jasmine s  3 weeks back

                                                                          these videos don't make me feel any better about anything, it makes me feel like i can't tell my family because of how some people still react to it. my friends are the only people who understand

                                                                          • Jason Meyer
                                                                            Jason Meyer  3 weeks back

                                                                            This is a wonderful thing you've all done.

                                                                            • Walter K Bauer
                                                                              Walter K Bauer  3 weeks back

                                                                              Growing up, I had an Aunt Tony, and Uncle Bob.
                                                                              Neither were flamers.
                                                                              Just good solid humans.
                                                                              My Mom asked me if I thought I might be?
                                                                              I said,Mom I'm in touch with my feminine side, and guess what? She's a lesbian!!!
                                                                              Hey Gay Irish kids!
                                                                              There's nothing wrong with you. You're the way God wanted you to be.
                                                                              I hope you find peace with the World around you.
                                                                              You are Loved.
                                                                              Now let's get back to drinkin', and eating God knows what!

                                                                              • 66Sixxy
                                                                                66Sixxy  3 weeks back

                                                                                As the mother of 2 LGBT daughters, & surrogate adult to many others (because love), I'm so grateful to all of you for telling your coming out stories. Thank you!!!!!

                                                                                • Debbie Toland
                                                                                  Debbie Toland  3 weeks back

                                                                                  My little brother came out when he was 15. And I'm very proud of him for doing that. Because I'm female to male transgender person. And excepts me for that. But my mom isn't. But that's okay because my little brother is.

                                                                                  • Deborah Patrick
                                                                                    Deborah Patrick  3 weeks back

                                                                                    The ads popping up while these emotional stories are being told are terrible. The gravity is diminished while your ad money is being made. That’s sad.

                                                                                    • Renee Husereaux
                                                                                      Renee Husereaux  3 weeks back

                                                                                      It’s ok to be whomever you are, I love you guys for you, not your color, sexual orientation, religion, or anything else. I’ll be your American mom, or grandmom! I’ve always told my kids (and you all are my kids too now) as long as you believe on God and are kind, I don’t care what else you are

                                                                                      • C Liles
                                                                                        C Liles  4 weeks back

                                                                                        How wonderful it will be when there is no need to "come out" because people are not labelled. When people are just people and are simply who they are. When people no longer feel the need to make others feel "less than" by limiting their rights. This day will come...and soon! I have 2 sons. One has married a wonderful person and is very happy. The other I hope will marry a wonderful person if he wishes to get married. No labels. I only want them to be happy and to be themselves and to not live in fear. This is my hope.

                                                                                        • Damaris Torres
                                                                                          Damaris Torres  4 weeks back

                                                                                          My son told me about being gay on April’s fool day. Obviously I didn’t believe him at first, but after a couple of minutes convincing me that it was not a joke I told him that he would still be my son no matter what. I have to be hones and say that his upbringing was hard, I was hard on my kids and used to consider that as a taboo subject due to my own upbringing. I am soooooo proud of him and can say that I DON'T GIVE A FLYING FUCK ABOUT PEOPLE THAT DO NOT ACCEPT THEIR KIDS FOR HWO THEY ARE.

                                                                                          • Jeremey Woolley
                                                                                            Jeremey Woolley  1 months back

                                                                                            That is so true I came out when I was 12 but mine wasn’t easy because I got bullied bye my older brothers and said your a disgrace and how can you like that and much worse then when I got molested at age 12 when I told my family they all hanged up on me and said that person didn’t do that you are lying and they are still like that subject I nearly committed suicide at age 13 walked up to the main road and just about stared to walk across and my phone rang and said no don’t go back to the house and I’ll pick you up and for years after I was still bullied and laughed at and it is just a phase my mum asked me that from 12 till I turned 2012 when I ended up having a boyfriend I said it isn’t a fase it’s me and who I am but gays still deal with a lot worse so I’m going on a holiday for Christmas to London then back to Australia on 3rd January then I can finely be free and be safe and walk away from a toxic family